Everything happens for a reason. If it’s meant to be, it will be. It will happen when you least expect it. The moment you stop looking, you’ll find it. When it’s right, you’ll just know it.
Don’t you just HATE how whenever something really bad happens, you are repeatedly fed these seemingly meaningless cliché statements, as your friends and family scramble helplessly to comfort you?
I mentioned in a recent post the remarkable parallels between dating and job interviewing. Well, in the past year, I experienced more than a few bumps in both departments, so yes, I have heard the above cliché phrases hundreds of times.
After a job interview where I really wanted the job, but I knew in my gut I hadn’t gotten it: “You’ll have to wait and see. If it’s meant to be, it will be.”
After a couple of bad dates: “The moment you stop looking, you’ll find it. When it’s right, you’ll just know it.”
Insert eye roll.
(Thanks for the help, Ryan)
The thing is…I’m actually starting to believe all of this advice.
Awhile back, when I was trying to decide whether or not to move permanently back to Omaha, I met someone at my gym. We connected on a variety of work-related topics, and he mentioned, as a successful businessman, that he would be happy to pass my resume around. He was kind enough to put me in touch with a few people, but as my life switched back and forth from Omaha to NY, it was difficult for me to follow up with those contacts.
I ran into him at the gym when I officially moved back to Omaha, and we reconnected briefly. A couple of months later, as I was quickly learning that the job search wouldn’t be quite as easy as I thought, I received a phone call from him. He would be taking over a position in a specialty foods company based in Omaha, and they were looking for a marketing director. Incidentally he had read my blog and was inclined to think a position like this would interest me.
Once I found out the name of the company, a company I was VERY familiar with, I was more than interested. Within a couple of weeks we had set up an interview, and as I prepped for the interview the night before, I started to get that feeling…the feeling that this could actually be the right job for me. I couldn’t even get to bed at a decent hour because I was too engrossed in researching industry news and competitors.
The next day, I woke up groggy and extremely nervous. I didn’t know what to expect from the interview or how close I was to getting the actual job. The moment I walked in the door, I could tell that this was a place I would enjoy working. As cheesy as it sounds, you could literally feel the passion for their product everywhere. The interview flew by, and I found myself asking question after question about the business and their strategic goals. If I could have physically sat down and started working that day, I probably would have!
But, when I walked out the door, all I felt was a bundle of nerves again. Had I said all the right things? Was it unequivocally clear that I was uniquely qualified for this position? That’s when I went straight home to write the “thank you email” of my life. I wanted to leave no stone unturned in showing why this was the job for me.
I’ll have to share it someday…
Luckily, before I left the interview, he informed me that he would be making his decision after one last interview the next day.
As you can imagine, I didn’t sleep very well that night. I woke up and ran 10 miles, trying to “run out” all of the nerves in my body. It sounds dramatic but all I could think was “Wow, my life might really change today!”
Just as I finished up my long run, I received “the call.” I nervously small-talked with him until he said the words I was waiting to hear. “We’d like to make you an offer to work with us…” That is when I started slurring my words and seemed to lose the ability to speak and put together proper sentences. I’m a big talker, so this rarely, if ever, happens to me.
How is that for professional?
I didn’t even bother “playing it cool.” We were SO beyond that – he knew I wanted the job!
After I hung up the phone, I promptly called one of my best friends, told her the good news and just started crying. I had been holding in a lot of anxiety and frustration for the past few months, and now, I could finally breathe!
I cannot even tell you the mixture of emotions I felt last week leading up to this point: I was juggling between being a freelance writer (still need to finish this article – it’s a big one!), creating recipes, workouts and content for this blog and wondering whether my career would end up in education (I was in the final rounds of the interview process for this job), healthcare (a job at a well-respected company) OR speciality foods. But, I knew where my heart was, and I am so glad that I got exactly what I wanted. How often does that happen?
So, everything happens for a reason. It will happen when you least expect it. If it’s meant to be, it will be. And yep, when it’s right, you’ll just know it.
- I have wanted to move back to Omaha for years now, and in my heart I truly feel that my last relationship, as painful as it was, played a large role in leading me to the decision that I belonged in Omaha.
- I spend a lot of time at the gym these days, and sometimes I feel guilty about it. But, ultimately, it’s where I met my future employer.
- And, as for the blog, well, you don’t know how many doubts I’ve had about “my baby” over the years. Between the significant amount of time it takes me and the disappointment I feel when something that I’ve worked hard on doesn’t resonate with my audience, I’ve sincerely wondered if it’s all worth it. Maybe I’m greedy, but I am always hoping for more. More readers. More comments. More brands to work with. However, it was this blog that caused my future employer to think of me as he sought to fill the Director of Marketing position at his company. So, now I know that it was all worth it.
In the great words of my big brother, “The blog paid off big time.”
I am so incredibly grateful for the time I’ve had away from work to truly appreciate just how much of my self-worth and purpose is tied to my job. And now, I have found a job that I know will fulfill me every day and even, dare I say it, not feel like work all of the time.
I don’t know what taking this job means for my blog – getting up-to-speed will be my number one priority as I start my new job. The company is rapidly expanding, and I want to be sure I’m comfortable in my role immediately. I’ll also need to talk to my future employer about how and if our company can be mentioned on the blog. It will all come in time.
So anyway, millions of things on the to-do list. Apartment hunting (I just signed a lease – my parents are going to miss me!), furniture buying, an 800 word article to write, a trip to NYC to see my new niece Lila Rose!!…the list is literally endless. Then the job begins, and I’m off to Seattle and Sacramento right away for some business trips!
Posts on the ol’ SHLB may become sporadic for a while, but I’m not narcissistic enough to assume that this lack of consistency will affect anyone’s Monday/Wednesday/Friday. If so, email me – we can be pen pals ;-).
Until next time, take it from me, everything really DOES happen for a reason ya’ll. (And THANK YOU for reading – this blog has kept me going through the rough days!)
I’ll leave you with the timeless words of Dr. Seuss…